Carmelita Couture
Valery Cadet
I love the word, “No”! I always have. It’s truly part of the reason for my success amongst other attributes I either embraced or acquired through this thing called life. First and foremost, I wanted to apologize for what seemed as my absence. I was uninspired. I went through a phase that I will compare to the 40 days and 40 nights in the bible. It happens! For those that are fellow artists, you understand. I think writers call it writers block. I guess I got a dose of bloggers block. And besides running on fumes is never healthy. I appreciate my time to reenergize. The only thing I look forward to during this time is learning to suppress my guilt with acknowledging my need for self-care. Now back to the topic at hand. “No”, is a term that many have used to restrict me from God’s calling on my life. Now, I want to be fair when I say I was gifted with the ability to decipher what Gods will is on my life versus the pure fuckery of another’s persons insecurity. This is truly an art!
When it comes to the word in itself, let’s begin with its definition:
1. a negative answer or decision, as in voting.
It’s solely a response, not the truth. I want to be clear there are millions upon millions of decisions to make in a lifetime but let’s stick clear of those that are dangerous. My focus is merely the fundamentals of living on purpose in the calling God has on your life. For me, I would be in physical pain at the response of a “no”. Especially when I was at an audition, casting or go-see. My heart would sink in meetings when people didn’t see my vision. My rebuttal was always kind without striking back because ultimately that would be my destiny.
I learned to appreciate the blind but I will not lead them. I learned to appreciate the insecurity in others but I will not secure them. I learned to appreciate the fear of the unknown but I will only trench through the waters made upon my journey. I learned to trust my gut, the bible and my past history of my resilience. I learn to trust God and myself. I learned that a no is actually an open door to the basic understanding for another human or a closed door of redemption for me. I am no greater than the next person but I know my purpose. I know this world and I choose, YES!
